Tomorrow I celebrate another birthday. And like most people, when that big day approaches, I start to take stock of my life and ask myself a few questions.
What was great about this past year? What was difficult? What were the “pretty” parts … and what was downright ugly about the past 12 months? What do I want to concentrate on for the new year, and what needs to be let go of from last year?
I’ve been contemplating these questions lately. But to be honest, It can be hard to nail down the answers to questions as big as these.
Throughout the year, I fluctuate in my confidence levels. I’ll have intense periods of inspiration, where I’m firing on all cylinders, and I’m living up to my full badass potential!
Then there are the not-so-badass moments. When I worry that I’m flopping as an entrepreneur … or that I’m being a naggy wife … or a terrible mother.
Here’s what I can do: I can feel grateful that I have more happiness in my life than ever before. I can embrace those times when I just need to be relaxed, or uninspired, or contemplative. I can emerge from my “hibernation” as the bright, beautiful sparkly being I know that I am!
And I can say loud and proud, “Happy birthday to me!”
Here are a few things I've learned over the years and maybe you can use them to help propel yourself forward too:
LESSON 1 // SUCCESS IS NOT AN ACCIDENT
Probably one of the biggest lessons I’ve ever learned. If you want to be successful you have to do it on purpose. I’ve built two really successful businesses over the past few years and I’ve realized that the reason they became successful is that I was taking action to make them successful...EVERY DAY.
LESSON 2 // CONDITION YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS
Make a conscious effort to train your brain for success; which means focusing on the positives, rather than dwelling on the negatives. It means making the commitment to yourself to become the person you need to be in order to succeed.
LESSON 3 // TUNE INTO YOURSELF
When we pay attention and listen to ourselves the most magical things can begin to happen. Deep down you know what you need to do, you know what the right thing to do is, so listen up. The more I stay aligned with myself the more I stay in the flow and manifest what I want. Things happen more easily.
LESSON 4 // GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT AND FOLLOW THE FEELING
Don’t let your logical brain get in the way of a feeling or sense about something. If something fills you with joy and excitement but your logical brain tells you it’s not possible, don’t listen to your brain follow the feeling!
LESSON 5 // DON’T WORRY ABOUT NOT HAVING IT ALL FIGURED OUT…
No one does!! Lean into knowing that you’ll never have all the answers and that’s ok!
LESSON 6 // ADD VALUE
Add insane amounts of value all the time. To as many people as you can!
LESSON 7 // CREATE AMAZING EXPERIENCES
For yourself, your team, your followers, and people will love hanging out with you if you invite them into your experiences.
LESSON 8 // GET CLEAR ON YOUR MISSION, YOUR WHY AND BUILD YOUR BRAND ON IT
It doesn’t have to be complicated – just get clarity and stay connected with your why, whether as a business owner or professional in a career.
LESSON 9 // DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE YOU, BE AFRAID NOT TO BE YOU
We live in a time where people can see when you’re not being yourself, even if it’s scary just find the courage to fully be yourself!
LESSON 10 // BUILD YOUR LIST
Like-minded people who resonate with your message and what you have to share. Don’t be afraid to share your message with the world because the right people will find you.
LESSON 11 // IT WILL TAKE LONGER THAN YOU THINK
No one has overnight success. Realizing it will take longer and just accepting it will help you relax and know that it’s a journey and you’ll get there :)
LESSON 12 // KEEP THE FAITH & TRUST THAT IT WILL WORK OUT
When you’re trying to turn your idea into a reality (including trying to find a new job) and doing things you have never done before you just have to dig deep an find that place of trust and faith that it will all work.
LESSON 13 // NETWORK LIKE CRAZY
One of the most important things for building momentum in your business and career is networking. Just get out there!
LESSON 14 // LISTEN, LEARN & GROW
Always keep learning and growing. There is so much out there to learn, take the bits that resonate with you and always be open to learning.
LESSON 15 // ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS
This is so easy to forget to do, yet so important. Take a few minutes to reflect and think about all the things that you’ve achieved this year. Celebrate yourself!
LESSON 16 // BE GRATEFUL DAILY
Take a moment every day to be grateful for the gifts and people you have been blessed with.
LESSON 17 // KNOW THAT CONFUSION IS PART OF THE JOURNEY
Everyone is confused. Even the most successful entrepreneurs and professionals feel confused sometimes, it’s okay! Take the pressure off yourself – you don’t have to be perfect.
LESSON 18 // BE KIND & CARE MORE
It’s so easy to be kind and care for people. This is so powerful and easy to do because everyone one of us can be kind.
LESSON 19 // DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANYONE ELSE
Comparing will derail you from success! You’re not on the same journey as anyone else, so don’t compare yourself to someone else ever.
LESSON 20 // BE CONSISTENT
Even when you don’t want to, just keep going and keep putting value and content out there consistently and it will pay off.
LESSON 21 // ALLOW YOURSELF TO CHILL OUT & TAKE A BREAK
Things aren’t going to fall apart if you take a break! It’s important to chill out and put yourself first sometimes. Take a mini vacation. Don't look for a job for ONE DAY or a WEEKEND. Our brain needs that break here and there.
LESSON 22 // HAVE PATIENCE
Things don’t happen overnight, they take time, and you have to learn to be okay with it.
Question: What are your highs and lows from the past year? What have you learned from them? And how will you use what you’ve learned to move forward? Share in the comments below.
If you need help with managing a career change or need reflection assistance, reach out!